What Has, What Has Not, and What Hopefully Will 2018/2019

I was about to write a new post and just saw that I wrote this a looong time ago, but did not post it. Well, here goes nothing.


Hey y’all! God dayum, one full year without a single post. I must have been real busy with life. LOL

So here I am, back back back again with the annual post of last year recap and new year resolution. Since this is a nice ritual to do every year, I am trying my best to keep this going. Even though, I am posting this later and later into the year. XD (red: well, it is 1.5 year later now)

So, 2018! What a year, huh? To be completely honest, 2018 was not a bad year at all for me. It was, dare I say, one of my best years. Sure, it started roughly, but along the way things corrected their course and 2018 ended on a strong and beautiful note. Work has been pretty amazing, I got to learn a lot of new things and get involved in projects that are very interesting. Personal life is getting sorted out little by little. My demons have mostly been in control, even though from time to time they got to see the light of day in difficult times. But yea, like I said, 2018, hell of a year.


Now let’s get to business, let’s see what bullshit I said at the beginning of 2018 that I would do and ultimately did not do. XD

  • Getting a house/apartment. Woof, this has been on the back of my mind lately. Just an issue of where. Indonesia or here in Groningen. Having a house in Groningen would be nice, so that I don’t waste money on rent. But I am not sure whether it would be the right decision. Getting a house in Indonesia would mean that I am going to go home sometime soon, which I am not sure about. So I think I am just going to put this plan on hold for a few more years.
  • Better sleeping habit. Honestly, I think I had a very bad sleeping pattern in 2018. I remember so many nights when I had trouble sleeping. My guess is that it was due to my anxiety, just fear of the future, fear of tomorrow. I think I am doing better with my anxiety, but somehow I did have some trouble sleeping in 2018. Well, maybe the fact that I am addicted to mobile legends also played a role. Hahaa..
  • Lose weight. Oh wow, I didn’t know this was a resolution of mine. I wanted to be 67 apparently. Now, that sounds very thin to me. I am currently on 71-72, which I think a good weight for me. I do need to exercise more because I am out of shape, especially since I stopped going climbing since October. But, I do plan to get into running a bit now since I found the perfect shoes for my feet. Let’s see how this goes. 😛
  • Reading more. Oh wow, I cannot believe I only read 3 books last year, according to my GoodReads account. This is soo bad. But, to be fair, I read a lot of other things at work, so when I go home, I guess I am already not in the mood to read. So, I think it is fine, I will just read whenever I want to read. I think that’s the better attitude.
  • Be more selfish. I think this was not worded properly. I am pretty sure what I meant was just to express my wants and needs more. And this is something that I was (am) really struggling with. But I think 2018 was the year that I learnt the most that my wants and needs are valid. Nobody can judge them, not even me. While expressing them is one thing, getting them fulfilled is completely different thing. And I have learnt that not getting them fulfilled sucks, but not expressing them leads to resentment and suckier (I know it’s not a real word) things. So, just express your wants and needs, guys! Easier said than done, but I think I have progressed in that department.

Looking at the things that I wanted to achieve at the beginning of 2018, I feel like I am a completely different person. I feel like, it’s so funny that I wanted those things. Because right now, despite not having achieved most of them, I feel like they do not matter as much anymore. Maybe it’s natural, but I feel like this is due to the fact that I have grown to like myself more. I am not saying that there are not things that I could improve, but it’s just.. I don’t know, I have a different perspective on those things now.

So now, if I am asked whether I have any resolution.. to be honest, I don’t. But let’s try to make some points that I want to do:

  • Treating myself at a nice restaurant at least once a month. I think this is a good way to be kind to yourself. And this is also a nice exercise to be okay with just yourself. I am still not the best at that, I still feel awkward when I have to go watch a movie by myself or go to a restaurant alone.
  • Exercise at least 10 minutes a day. Just a short simple jog every day would do.
  • Purge myself from the things that I do not use anymore at home. When I went to Indonesia, I realized how many things my family has, in terms of stuff. Like furnitures, clothing, toys, etc. It made me think how the majority of these things are not really used. Last year, I already did a major cleanup in my apartment. This year, I think I want to get rid of more things which I do not use, and might be more use for other people. I have this window in my hallway which is covered by a cupboard full of stuff. I think my resolution will be, being able to remove that cupboard and let sunlight through that window in the hallway.
  • Be better at self-care stuff. Like moisturizing my skin, flossing more often, and that type of things. Somehow, I am so bad at keeping a good habit of these things. I attributed it to the fact that I don’t care too much about beauty, but I realized that this had nothing to do with beauty, but more about health. Not moisturizing skin will lead to dry skin, which is prone to itching, which could lead to other unpleasant things. So, yea, I need to get on with the self care.
  • Make more friends. One of the things I learnt this year is that I missed having friends. Sure, I do have friends, some of them are really good friends. However, they are not really in the same stage of life as mine. Most of my friends here are students, and they are some of the most amazing people I have ever met. But I cannot deny the fact that sometimes when we have different point of views, I feel like it is because we are not in the same stage of our lives. So I think having some working late 20’s/early 30’s friends would do me good.

Oh woof, look at me, coming from “oh I don’t have any resolution” to “I have these many points that I want to work on.” XD

I think that is pretty much it for now, folks. Nothing else to say other than may 2019 be kind to you. Cheers!

What Has, What Has Not, and What Hopefully Will 2017/2018

Hey y’all! What’s up?

Here I am, back again with my annual post of resolution type of thing. I know, I know I am a bit late this year. This is already the new year and I used to post it moments before new year. I am sorry I was on a very long vacation in Indonesia…. Actually, you know what, I am not sorry. This is one of the things I want to improve this year. Well, let’s get to it then.

Now, let’s see my previous resolutions:

  • Healthier lifestyle. Well, at the end of the year, I kinda started becoming a vegetarian, but not for health reasons, rather environmental ones. However, I think I have not read enough about how to do it properly. In the end, I feel like I am gaining weight (which I did) and feeling weak and sleepy. That being said, I am willing to keep going at it. I just need to read more about it. Oh, and I found a new sport: bouldering. I have some friends to go there with, but tbh I kinda miss swimming. Swimming is better for the body I think, at least for me.
  • Reading one book a month and writing less scientific stuff. This did not go at all. I am not even sure how many books I read. I was trying really hard to get over the tween books that I love (Percy Jackson type of thing) because I feel like I am way too old to be reading those books. But, it is really hard to read other books. It’s not like I did not read any books at all, but I just did not read as much as I hoped I would. And as for the writing, well you know how it went, I only wrote one blog post in 2017. So, FAIL!
  • Financial goal. I did it! I am so proud of myself. 😀
  • Dedicate myself in the better of something. Well, this is more about me trying to feel useful for the society. Well, the first few weeks in Groningen, I joined this weekly event which prepares food for the public. This is a lot of fun. Getting to meet new people and doing good at the same time. I love it! Though, I haven’t been there for about two months now. Planning to come back to it. 😀

Looking at this list, I do not think that I did so well. But, by judging on the things that I have done and achieved this year, I can definitely say that 2017 was much a better year than 2016 for me. I got my PhD, I got a job in the Netherlands, I love my life here in Groningen, meeting new and interesting people, working on exciting things. I think I deserve a pat on the back (there there..). Hahaa

For 2018! I have a list of things that I would like to achieve this year, let’s do this:

  • Get a house/apartment. I want to get one by the end of the year, just because…
  • Sleep at 11 PM the latest and wake up at 8 AM the latest. I think I need to have a better sleeping habit, because right now it is not good at all. I think bad sleeping pattern kinda helps me with my anxiety and you know I need my anxiety to be under control. Haha..
  • Get ripped.. Naah just kidding. I just wanna lose some weight. I started 2018 with 72 kg! This is the heaviest I have been my whole life. I wanna take it down to 67, but I want to lose fat, not muscle. So, better start running…
  • Properly keep track of my reading with goodreads. I should start doing this so that I am motivated to keep reading. Nothing more satisfying than ticking your to-do list.
  • Be more selfish and stop apologizing for things that I want. As long as it doesn’t hurt anybody, why should I apologize? This is really hard for me. I am too anxious to ask for what I want and sometimes I avoid conflicts, so in the end I become a doormat and a pushover. This has to stop!

Oh well, I think that’s all I have for now. Hopefully, you will see me sooner than a year from now. 😀

Fleeting Little Thing Called Time…

This is August already! This means, more than half of 2017 has passed. And man, does time fly. And here I am, in the second half of the year. Yet another chapter in my life is going to unfold.

So a little update, I am officially Dr. Andru Putra Twinanda now. Yeay! My defense went quite smoothly, everybody was quite happy with how it turned out. My parents were there, my friends came too, and a lot of cool people present at the meeting. Awesome beans.

Post-Defense Picture

Look at my widest smile! It was a great day!

After I was done with the defense, I went to vacation with my parents. We went to Spain, Morocco and Portugal. It was a lot of fun. This was the time when I realized that my parents are getting old. I felt they were so much older than the last time they came to Europe which was 5 years ago. And again, yet another proof that time is such a fleeting little thing. But nevertheless, we made the best of our time there.

And then I went back to the lab, continued working on the projects that I was working on. Jointly with an intern, we got a paper accepted at MICCAI, which made this year even sweeter. My contract as a post-doc terminated some time ago, by the end of July to be exact. Some time in June, I have decided to join a startup company in the Netherlands, I will start working in September.

Oh man, so much has changed in such a short amount of time. At the end of my contract in Strasbourg, I couldn’t help but to reminisce all the time that I had spent with my colleagues in the lab. The endless hangouts and laughter with my friends, the restless nights of writing papers, and the limitless possibilities of experimental setups to do. All those things are now just another chapter in my life. Always held dear, but in the past.

So, here I am now, having a little down time, getting my mind refreshed and ready for my upcoming job. I am currently in Groningen, the objective of my visit is to find myself an apartment, and I DID! Mind you, it is very difficult to find an apartment here, especially on such a high season when the students are coming to start their studies here (and Groningen’s population is mostly students [citation needed]). Actually, I just signed the apartment contract this morning. I am really happy that I managed to get an apartment that I really like and very close to my future office. I wish I had taken pictures of the apartment. Did I tell you already that I really like it?

All is well that ends well. As fleeting as our life can be, and as fast as time flies, I cannot wait for my next adventure in the Netherlands. Somehow, I have an inkling that it will be an exciting one. So, till next time!

PS: Still waiting for my work permit, wish me luck!

What Has, What Has Not, and What Hopefully Will 2016-2017

Hey y’all! What’s up? Been a long time not writing here. Dear God, I keep losing motivation to post something on this blog. Believe it or not, there are so many blog drafts ready in my account to post. Either they are not finished or I decided not to post them because they are too controversial.

Well, in any case, here I am, writing my annual post which is about my resolution. Here is the list of what I would like to do in 2016 and how I am doing for each point:

  • Defeat the demons inside me. A few months ago, I made public one of the most raw posts (which was password-protected) that I have written about myself in which I talked about my anxiety problems. I think this is a step toward defeating my demons. Trying to acknowledge and own them. Explicitly state what I want to do with them and put them online so that I can be held accountable. In the real, I don’t think I will ever defeat these demons, what I can do is just learn to live and manage them. And I think I am doing better now compared to in 2015. So, to be fair, this is not really a resolution which I can say whether I can tick off of the list. In any case, progress achieved! 😀
  • Get a job in Europe. Well, the plan was to end 2016 with a PhD diploma. However, scheduling was a little bit difficult so I couldn’t defend my thesis at the end of the year. My defense is planned for January 27, 2017 (wish me luck!), which is pretty soon. Afterwards, I already talked with my supervisor that I would like to stay in the lab as an engineer for another 6 months and he agreed to this. So, I guess this can be considered as a check in the list. 🙂
  • Getting healthier. I actually stopped eating chips, but around September or something like that, I broke this good habit. It is a bit upsetting, so I am willing to put it to test again.
  • Fourth language is not happening. However, I DID learn how to read cyrillic! So, that’s interesting right? I think I need to accept that I will not speak more than three languages (and some extra traditional languages. ;)) #humblebrag
  • Read a French book each month and write more in French. This is a fail. I think I kept the reading resolution only until February and just dropped it. As for the writing, well you know how well I keep up with my blog posts. Actually, my reading stats in 2016 is the worst compared to the last couple of years. I think I just read a few books this year. The thing is I have been trying to change what I am reading. À la base, I like reading fantasy books, but I feel like I should read some other genre, more serious ones. But, I do not enjoy the books as much as I enjoy fantasy books, so I have not read a lot. Recently, my friend told me that I should just read the books that I like. It doesn’t matter if they are fantasy books, as long as I enjoy them.

So, there you go. The complete results of my resolutions in 2016. Considering everything, I think it was a great year. Come on! I shaved my head in 2016! Never in a million years I thought I would do that and I like it!


Andru 4.0. Same ol’ boy, just aerodynamically better.

Well, anyway. I did three major things in terms of work: published an article at TMI, co-organized a workshop at MICCAI in Athens, and finished my manuscript. My social life is not too much sacrificed either. I have great friends with whom I could talk, laugh, and cry with. I am also still healthy (to the best of my knowledge), have roof over my head and food on the table. So, for those, I am grateful.

Now, here are my resolutions for 2017.

In 2016, I have been slacking off in terms of health stuff. I did not go to the pool as often as I did in 2015. My diet was not the best either. Since I will be done with my thesis pretty soon, I think I can go back to healthier life style. I am thinking of getting a gym membership since it costs more or less the same as the pool membership. And for the diet, I will again try stop eating chips and candy bars.

I think I want to get back to reading books. Despite the fact I read a lot of research papers, I feel like I need to keep in touch with my right brain which has been more or less abandoned in 2016. So, I will make the same resolution which is one book a month. But this time, it does not matter whether it is in French or not. Would be great to also go back to writing non-scientific stuff. But, I feel like I am constantly writing about my mental health. I need to find better topics to talk about. XD

I am also setting a certain number to appear in my bank account at the end of the year. I feel like I need to cut back on my spending. I need to start thinking about the future, I am not that young anymore. I am not going announce that number here of course, but I put it here so I have something to hold me accountable. 😀

Lately, I am having some sort of existential crisis as I feel like I am no use for the society. So, I want to dedicate myself for the betterment of something. It could be anything, reducing poverty, helping animal shelters, become a paramedic or a donor advocate, anything at all, as long as it does not solely involve me giving my money. Of course, giving money to charity is grand already, but I feel like I need more hands-on experience so that I could feel that I am doing something for the society.

I think that’s all for this year. I have a feeling 2017 will be a great year. Here is the reason:


Why 2017 will be a great year! #optimism

LOL! May the best asshole reign! Have a great year, bitches!

That Winter Blues

Winter is the worst season of all for me
It has always been..

It is cold and dark and lonely
It is depressing, especially with the freezing wind
But, it is also a reminder that I lost someone I loved dearly
That’s what’s worst about these negative degrees
Especially, when I am cold in the dark feeling lonely

Every time I see that huge Christmas tree
at the biggest square in the city
I weep, I cry and I plea..
May he be in peace and kept close to Thee


What Has, What Has Not, What Hopefully Will 2015-2016

Hey again!

This post has been a “ritual” that I usually do at the end of the year for the last few years. There you go, another post looking back at my resolutions and whether I have achieved them or not. So, let’s get to it!

  1. Go back to writing my blog regularly. Well, I definitely wrote a lot more than last year, not as frequent as I hoped I would be. The theme of the posts is also apparently converging to one topic, which I will discuss later. 😛
  2. Reading one book in French every month. Just like most of the resolutions, this one was only alive at the beginning of the year, maybe until February or March. It is a bit unfortunate since I really want to improve my French. XD
  3. Fourth language. Still a no. I have been really thinking about it, but I keep getting too lazy to start learning. I also think that I will need to join a class to learn a completely new language. Or maybe I just say that to myself as an excuse to not do it. Hahaa..
  4. Get healthier. I think I am quite healthy, not a six-pack or anything like that. But I am not fat, and not too skinny either. I still do swimming, not as frequent as I want, but I have some equipment at home, like a pull-up bar, weights, etc. So, I work out at home.
  5. Get over my insecurities. Here is the big problem..

If you pay attention to my blog posts in 2015, mostly they are about my mental health problem. I have been having many problems (as other do too), but this year somehow it was harder than previous years. Most likely, it is all due to the pressure coming from work, family, friends, and especially myself. It has been really difficult, but I am glad that I have people who I can trust and who also can understand my situation.

So, this is my number one resolution for 2016: defeat the demons inside my head. I am sure that this is the key for me to be able to enjoy my life to the fullest. And it is about time I face the problem head-on!

2016 will also be a big year for me. I am scheduled to finish my PhD at the end of the year, so maybe next year I will have gotten my Doctor title when I write this blog post. Amen! And then, another chapter of my life will start. I am hoping that I can get a job in Europe, especially France, because I am already familiar with how things work in France and also able to speak the language. My second choice would be Germany because I know many good labs and places to work there. It could be a nice change of scene too.

The other goals that I haven’t achieved should also become my resolutions now. Getting healthier: I will try to stop eating chips! Brave, I know. But, I eat them too much! Fourth language: Spanish is my first choice. Reading one French book every month: come on Andru, you can do this! Maybe even write blog posts in French every now and then.

2015 was hard, but it was still a great year. I have so many things to be grateful for. I got to go home and see my family during the summer. I went to Barcelona for a conference. Moved out to a bigger apartment. I still have roof over my head, food on my table, clothes to keep me warm, etc. So, here is to hoping that 2016 will be even better!!

Cheers to all of you! And have a great new year!!

No Shame In Being Imperfect

UPDATE: I wrote this post almost one year ago (now October 2016), I kept it private because I was afraid of the consequences of this post. But, not anymore. I know by making this post public is not going to make me feel much better either, but it might help you. Yes, you who are actually having problems or you who know somebody who has problems. More stories need to be shared, more lessons need to be learnt. Now, here is the original post…

Today, a record was made. It was the second time that my supervisor asked me to rewrite a single paper draft, more or less from scratch. Don’t get me wrong, I agree with him mostly. My draft was not good at all and there has never been a history of my paper drafts being no-good-at-all. This is my all-time worst, even my supervisor said that it was not like my writing at all. Later, he asked.. “Are you okay?”

Before I tell you what my response to my supervisor was, I just wanna give you a little background. I have been having psychological problems for a long time (as everybody does), but everything became so much more intense when I started my PhD. I have been warned about the PhD problems long before I started mine. I have read about them everywhere too. The amount of stress that PhD might cause, the suicidal thoughts, the catastrophic failure, etc etc. But you know what, I have been an all-star student as I beautifully bragged here (PS: being an all-star student might be the source of my problems too). So, I thought that I could get through it unscathed and surely people were exaggerating. Man, was I wrong..

For me, there is this weird sense of pressure that PhD gives. That ridiculous amount of competition that you bear on your shoulders. That you have to do stuff as quickly as possible, otherwise people will do it faster and better than you. Just in that snap decision when you want to do your PhD, the world suddenly turns against you. Maybe just me, well at least that’s how I feel. Somehow, my mind got out of control. I started having this crippling anxiety eating me up inside, which leads to many things. I started developing an impostor disorder and also (what I feel like) depression. That suicidal tendency that I had had in the closet, started coming out like nobody’s business and getting stronger by the minute.

Last year, I tried to talk to a therapist. It was a bit tricky since she was in Indonesia and I was in France. The scheduling was hard and having therapy sessions via Skype was not the most efficient. Despite all that, I actually felt better discussing my problems with her. However, the scheduling became so annoying that I stopped seeing her. Sure, there was still ups and downs afterwards, but nothing unmanageable. Except for the last few months..

For some unknown reasons, the last few months have been really difficult for me. I have been having panic attacks more frequently. The suicidal thoughts I am having start scaring me. Life has been bleak and dark. But I am trying to get out of this. I am putting all my efforts to keep living, carrying out my daily life as a normal human being, hidden under the bubbles and laughter.

“To tell you the truth, I have been having some problems..” And with that sentence, I told my supervisor about what I have been struggling with. Not in detail, just the big picture. His response was very kind and warm, but too many things are replaying in my head that I couldn’t really focus on what he was saying.

Instantly after telling that to my supervisor, I felt like a little burden on my shoulders has been lifted off. Yet later, I became afraid that he would think I was faking it (negativity is also in the list of my problems). I was also afraid that it would destroy the whole dynamic of our working environment. Honestly, I don’t know what is going to happen now. Oh whatever. I should start accepting that what he (or anybody for that matter) thinks about me is out of my control. And I think this is why people who have similar problems tend to keep it a secret, because they are afraid of what people might think of them. But, they should not feel this way! More stories need to be shared and more lessons need to be learnt.

To be honest, I am not sure why I wrote this. I have been wanting to write this for a long time, but I was afraid that I would be writing it for the wrong reasons. I did not want to write this because I wanted attention, because I knew I wouldn’t get attention anyway, I would just get pity out of this. And I did not want this to be a cry for help either. Now, after telling my supervisor, I found out that it is okay. It is okay to be imperfect, to be broken. I guess I wanted to write this to share with people, to tell them that life is difficult, life is confusing, even for the people you least expect it to be. Some people don’t understand you, and there might be only a few who do. That is normal, but remember you are not alone. Hold on to those few. Also, start letting people in anyway for life is too cold and dark to get through by yourself.

Letting people know about your problems does not make you weak. There should be no shame in admitting your flaws. And there is no humiliation in taking some time to deal with things in your life. 

More importantly, you should take pride in having that sheer willingness to show up and go on another day despite of your debilitating problems. You’ve made it through yesterday, surely you can take another day. After all, tomorrow is just the future’s yesterday!

PS: Watch this beautiful short about suicide. I hope it helps!

Giving Thanks

The things that I am thankful for this year:

  • Moving to a new apartment that can fit all my useless things.
  • Being able to afford living abroad without being a prostitute.
  • Getting rid of bed bugs in just one month or so. Still going strong without bed bugs. 😀
  • Bluetooth speakers.
  • Finding out who my real friends are.
  • Finding out who my fake friends are.
  • Healthy (afaik) digestive system.
  • Other relatively healthy systems.
  • French healthcare system.
  • etc.

In short, happy thanksgiving guys! Now, I am gonna go back being negative.


About Trust

I find it really hard to trust people. As loud as I might seem, I am very silent about what I am going through, about my life. Almost nobody knows about my darkest secrets and my deepest fears. Whenever I meet a new friend, I always keep them at an arm’s reach. Close enough to call them my good friends, but enough distance to let them not see the pimple scars on my face (figuratively speaking, although my face does have a bunch of scars. lol). I have been creating a wall my whole life because what is going on inside this head ain’t pretty. If it scares the hell out of me, I don’t think other people can handle it either.

But. At some rare serendipitous moments in this fleeting life, I have met some people that I feel comfortable around. I would make a door for them around my wall, and let them enter. These people, I hold dearly. To put it simply, I would help them hide a body if need be. Every single time I find people that I feel I can trust, I feel like my life is a little easier than before. Just like recently.. Well, long story short, I trusted this guy and thought of him as a brother. I let him see all the devils in my head. Until…

Famous-Trust-Quotes-with-Images-14I found out that he has been lying to my face the whole time. He is not the person that I thought he was. He is not the person anybody thought he really was. I really thought that I knew him. Had I seen his true self, I wouldn’t have trusted him with anything, not even my friendship, let alone my trust. And it hurts.. It really hurts to find out that the person that you have trusted for a long time has been lying to your face the whole time. And to find out about it from another person, not even from the person himself, hurts even more.

This post might be seen as a passive aggressive message to this guy. But really, it’s just a reminder to myself that I should be more careful.

Well, I just hope that all the bodies that we have hidden together will stay hidden. And for now, I will put a police line on the door where the door I built for him used to be. I want to be back inside my wall, back with the people I had already trusted. And to him, I say, best of luck.

People I Want To Throw Cold Spaghetti At

Hi everybody!

Welcome back to yet another entry from my rant collection about things that I feel like talking about. The title is a little shout out to Grace Helbig’s podcast with Miranda Sings and Colleen Ballinger if you are one of her fans. Basically, Grace asked Colleen “Who you wanted to throw cold spaghetti at?” Why cold spaghetti? Because it doesn’t really cause them any harm (because you don’t want to, and as you shouldn’t), but it sends a message regarding how you feel about them. So, I compiled two worst characters in people that make me want to throw cold s’ghetti at them!

Cold spaghetti

Cold spaghetti

Disclaimer: a friend told me that maybe I should rethink about writing this since it can be considered as a passive aggressive messages to some people. Well, if you feel like you match these descriptions, then at some point of our knowing-each-other, I must have had the urge to throw cold s’ghetti at you. This is not some sort of a passive aggression. To be completely honest, these posts mostly serve as a reminder for me. In this case, it’s a reminder that these qualities are the things I hate from people, so I should not have them myself.


I tried to search this word. Apparently, this word doesn’t exist. Well in any case, I guess you know what I mean.

Anyway, people keep telling me that I should not be too harsh on people. Not everybody is the same. I am a bit at loss why people say that to me. I just want them to be responsible, not bring me the moon or something. And I am not asking them to be perfect. Everybody makes mistakes, I know that. But they have to own up their mistakes and work their best to work things out. Not just run away and do nothing about it. Also, responsibility is not something that you were born with, it is something that you develop yourself. So when I am harsh to people who are irresponsible, I don’t think I am being unreasonable.


Being a programmer, I have always been taught, asked and told to make an efficient program, to make complex things less complex while keeping the effectiveness of a solution. This insatiable feeling of efficiency actually started to grow when I was doing my undergrad studies. I was a relatively active student. And now being a 25 year-old, I have learnt it the hard way that the clock ain’t ticking backwards. I really hate it when I involuntarily waste my time. For example, I hate being on a train alone for a long trip because I am the type of person who can’t do much on a train. I can’t read, I can’t work, I am not comfortable watching a movie due to the lack of space (my laptop is huge), I can only stay seated, listening to music. To me, this is a complete waste of time and I hate it!

I think these are the two things that really grind my gears. I really wanna do violent things to these people throw cold spaghetti at them! I am pretty sure I have a lot more qualities that really annoy me. However, I have the feeling that these two keep popping up in my life. Very very recently too. Well, I am not gonna go to the specifics. After all, this is not intended to be a passive aggressive message to the people who should remain nameless. 😛

P.S.: I know the question was asked first to the Gregory Brothers, but the podcast with Colleen was so much better. 😛

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